My Elbert: Neurodiversity Coaching

The weary need discernment upon their ego state

Psyche would be the ego conditioned individual’ “mind‘ wherein knowing “their being”; meaning what one is as a person and why here on earth through ontological training from family, culture, religion, education etc. which that” …is an ego states- they are an adaptation to various life circumstances, rather than innate states of being. Sometimes a person becomes stuck in an ego state, or finds that an ego state is no longer beneficial. A child abuse victim, for example, might get stuck in the role of frightened child.

What is discernment?

Definition of discernment. 1 : the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is obscure [such as “one’s life purpose”, “reason for being”, ‘threatening life circumstances’]; as well, a skill in discerning. 2 : an act of perceiving or discerning something. Note: Through Saving Faith Receive Discernment which includes discipline training; Saving Faith is the knowledge of, trust in, and commitment to Jesus Christ that is required for salvation:

To know wisdom and disciplined training;

to understand words of discernment;

To receive disciplined training in prudence,

right living, judgment and uprightness.

[Retrieved from Arms, D. R., ed. (2019). The Christian Counselor’s New Testament and Proverbs (J. E. Adams, Trans.; Fourth Revised Edition, Pr 1:2–3). Institute for Nouthetic Studies.]

Discernment is best understood as a “habit of mind and practice” to better understand what our health care mission requires of us in response to the particular challenges and opportunities that emerge in the course of organizational life. Discernment can enhance a decision-making lens, tool or process by constantly inviting those who discern into a deeper, broader and more reflective relationship to the evidence gathered, the people engaged in the process and the good that is imagined. [Retrieved from https://www.chausa.org/publications/health-progress/archives/issues/summer-2022/why-a-habit-of-discernment-is-crucial-for-catholic-health-care]

*ARAS (thalamus) -including: Thymus, Pons, RAS (HPA & ACC)/GUT (especially the vermiform appendix)DESPAIR of having anger and shame (worry/strife, idolatry & fear, sloth of the SUPEREGO) Woe To Discernment of Meekness & Justice instead understand His Will and fear of the Lord (awe-filled reverence and profound respect). Note: [“…with behavior that is a credit to the summons to God’s service, living as becomes you] with complete lowliness [in heart and mind]: idolatry of the heart, needs justice (kindness,unselfishness, gentleness, mildness) and sloth of the mind, needs meekness (patience, compassion, goodness), both need discernment of love (righteousness, humility, knowledge, wisdom) through bearing with one another and making allowances because you love and understand one another. Ephesians 4:2 AMPC

Note: SHAME IS THE OPPOSITE– ASUNETOS (Strong’s #801 — Adjective — asunetos — as-oon’-ay-tos) “without understanding or discernment(a, negative, sunetos, “intelligent, understanding”), is translated without understanding” in Matthew 15:16 : Mark 7:18; Romans 1:31; 10:19 , RV, “void of understanding” (AV, “foolish”); in Romans 1:21 , RV, “senseless” (AV, “foolish”). synetós (an adjective, derived from 4920 /syníēmi, “to understand by synthesizing”) – properly, “personal” understanding that results from correlating facts (concepts), i.e. as understanding works in keeping with one’s own perspective properly, without comprehension; foolish because incoherent (failing to “put facts together “)…See NOUS HERE

What is discernment meekness? (Divine Love)

Take My yoke upon you and learn of Me, for I am gentle (meek) and humble (lowly) in heart, and you will find rest (relief and ease and refreshment and recreation and blessed quiet) for your souls. [Jer. 6:16.] Matthew 11:29 AMPC Lowliness of heart and mind are indispensable in our approach to our Heavenly Father and our hope of receiving revelation and sanctification. “Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves” (Philippians 2:3). AND [Jesus] said to His disciples, Temptations (snares, traps set to entice to sin) are sure to come, but woe to him by or through whom they come! Luke 17:1 AMPC Rejoice and exult in hope; be steadfast and patient in suffering and tribulation; be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12 AMPC

Note: Meekness is an attribute of human nature and behavior that has been defined as an amalgam of righteousness, inner humility, and patience. Meekness is essentially an attitude or quality of heart whereby a person is willing to accept and submit without resistance to the will and desire of someone else. [Retrieved from https://www.regent.edu/journal/inner-resources-for-leaders/spiritual-meekness-a-virtue-for-christian-leaders/]. “…because from the squeezing of milk out come curds, from the squeezing of the nose out comes blood; so too from the squeezing of anger out comes strife. [Also see idolatry] Arms, D. R., ed. (2019). The Christian Counselor’s New Testament and Proverbs (J. E. Adams, Trans.; Fourth Revised Edition, Pr 30:33). Institute for Nouthetic Studies.

Basically: Discernment of Meekness- Gentleness

rids idolatry due to deceit (despair) and anger, acting in resentment

by releasing unto trust believing in the Love with trust

loving-kindness, complete joy (see Mercy)

What is discernment of justice? (Divine Honor)

Definition of discernment. 1 : the quality of being able to grasp and comprehend what is just, especially by the impartial adjustment of conflicting claims or the assignment of merited rewards or punishments. The administration of law, especially the establishment or determination of rights according to the rules of law or equity. The quality of being just, impartial or fair, and when to seek forgiveness of others. The maintenance or administration of His justice: “Jesus responded, not just by picking out two commandments at random. He cited one commandment that pertains directly to man in relationship with His God: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.” He said, “This is the first and great commandment.” Mathew 22″34-40. Comes arrogance [Pride]—comes shame; but wisdom is with the humble. Arms, D. R., ed. (2019). The Christian Counselor’s New Testament and Proverbs (J. E. Adams, Trans.; Fourth Revised Edition, Pr 11:2). Institute for Nouthetic Studies.

Basically: Discernment of Justice- Greatness

rids sloth due to guilt (despair)-judging and shame, acting in disrespect or deceit

by despising releasing unto believing in the Love of peace-loving (Faith)

Saving faith is expressed in baptism, is joined with repentance 

• making restitution for wrongs committed (1 Chr 21:22–26)

• abasing oneself before the wronged party (Gen 33:3)

and works through love. Christians are not justified by such things, but nor are they justified without them. It is only faith that saves, not because faith is greater than love or any other virtue, but because faith unites believers with Christ, in whom and because of whom they are accepted. So faith alone justifies, but the faith that justifies is never alone, it never exists without love and good works. complete faithfulness (see Grace.).

Dr. Charles Stanley states, “It is simply [with meekness] dwelling in God’s s presence without any visual or verbal distractions. He encourages believers to just sit in a dark and quiet room with the Lord.” “Obey God and leave all the consequences to Him.” “We can be tired, weary and emotionally distraught, but after spending time alone with God, we find that He injects into our bodies energy, power and strength.” Charles Stanley, preacher of His Word- The Gospels. [Retrieved from https://quotestats.com/topic/charles-stanley-quotes/]. Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart (power-joy-pons), and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind and strength. Mathew 22:37-39

I feel the best way to support those with Neurodevelopmental disorders or Neurodiversity especially in later onset…

I find the best support includes understanding the impact that a negative social environment, aka learning with trauma, has on those who have a neurodiversity, or as I prefer to say “neurodifferent”. My program, My Elbert, was developed to help those who feel weak and weary due to being neurodifferent including those working with them. Mainly, I help others to succeed and employ a positive attitude towards learning and learning environment. Instead of allowing shame and anger to overwhelm the learner, I focus on bringing in positive emotions and teaching methods for instance observing when they are needing calm delight. As well, help the learner with their learning difference and change their brain with self-directed neuroplasticity [flexibility] and atonement [adaptability]- The meaning of the word is simply at-one-ment, i.e., the state of being at one or being reconciled, so that atonement is reconciliation. Thus it is used to denote the effect which flows from the death of Christ. Easton, M. G. (1893). In Illustrated Bible Dictionary and Treasury of Biblical History, Biography, Geography, Doctrine, and Literature (p. 66). Harper & Brothers.

Why Motivational Interviewing? Motivational Interviewing incorporates the growing body of outcome research and is an “empathic, person-centred” counseling approach that prepares people for change by helping them resolve ambivalence, enhance intrinsic motivation, and build confidence to change.” (Kraybill and Morrison, 2007). More applications of MI within and beyond the addictions field such as OARS which are the basic interaction techniques and skills that are used “early and often” in the motivational interviewing approach. (Adapted from handouts by David Rosengren and from Miller & Rollnick, Motivational Interviewing, 2nd Edition, 2002). Coverage of MI and the stages-of-change model; applications in medical, public health, and criminal justice contexts; and the use of MI with groups, couples, and adolescents. Proven to work in those with anger. One very large study of treatment for alcohol use disorders found that response to motivational enhancement therapy was not altered by sociopathy, severity of alcohol involvement, concomitant psychological problems, or cognitive impairment. In this same study, angry people fared particularly well with a motivational interviewing–based approach, whereas those less angry at the beginning of treatment did somewhat better in cognitive-behavioral or twelve-step counseling. (W. Miller & S. Rollick, 2002, p. 47). MI will help them identify feelings of low self-esteem, guilt, shame, and self-judgment. Humiliation, shame, guilt, and angst are not the primary engines of change. Ironically, such experiences can even immobilize the person, rendering change more remote. Instead, constructive behavior change seems to arise when the person connects it with something of intrinsic value, something important, something cherished. Intrinsic motivation for change arises in an accepting, empowering atmosphere that makes it safe for the person to explore the possibly painful present in relation to what is wanted and valued. (W. Miller & S. Rollick, 2002, p. 33). Why Neuthetic Counseling? The three ideas found in the word nouthesia are confrontation, concern, and change. To put it simply, nouthetic counseling consists of lovingly confronting people out of deep concern in order to help them make those changes that God require. The nouthetic counselor believes that all that is needed to help another person love God and his neighbor as he should, as the verse above indicates, may be found in the Bible. By concern we mean that counseling is always done for the benefit of the counselee. His welfare is always in view in Biblical counseling. The apostle Paul put it this way: “I am not writing these things to shame you, but to counsel you as my dear children.” (1 Corinthians 4:14). Plainly, the familial nature of the word noutheteo appears in this verse. There is always a warm, family note to biblical counseling which is done among the saints of God who seek to help one another become more like Christ. Christians consider their counseling to be a part of the sanctification process whereby one Christian helps another get through some difficulty that is hindering him from moving forward in his spiritual growth. [Retrieved from https://nouthetic.org].

Learn More HERE

“How much more, then, will the blood of Christ, who through the eternal Spirit offered himself unblemished to God, cleanse our consciences from acts that lead to death, so that we may serve the living God!” ‭‭Hebrews‬ ‭9:14‬ ‭NIV‬‬

Published by Tricia Cook, MEd., Online Dyslexia and Behavioral Interventionist, RSP, AA O-G Tutor & Montessorian

My interest is in helping parents and teachers to understand learning and behavioral challenges and to love learning again. I graduated from Auburn in ECE in 1998. I have been a Montessori teacher here in Birmingham for almost 12 years and have lived in Birmingham for the past 19 years. As an early childhood teacher, I want continue to grow and develop as a constant learner. In 2012, I graduated from Secondary Education with a P-12 Reading Specialist certification the University of Alabama. As a Reading Specialist, I train on diversity and literacy development; I have a specialized knowledge of assessment and diagnosis that is vital for developing, implementing, and evaluating your literacy and neurodiversity behavioral, character development programing. Also, I have varying experiences designing instruction and environments for Montessori and Non-Montessori (OSR-Pre-K) environments. Therefore, I can consult for any environment or setting! In 2013, I attained my highly qualified status in ECE and Reading. In 2013, I also got my Orton-Gillingham AA tutor certification. I currently tutor full-time along with consulting. I have actually been tutoring since 2003. Along with other independent tutoring/interventionist experiences, I have brought dozens of students from an emergent to an advanced reading level! In addition to tutoring, I have provided the reading strengths and needs of my students and share that information to classroom teachers, parents, specialized teachers, and other stakeholders.  Lastly, I have also been a trainer/presenter, since 2008 and really enjoy this aspect of my career. As an experienced trainer, I have trained on many topics including: literacy (the five components), classroom management, positive discipline, diversity character development, Montessori Philosophy, policies and procedures, child development, and Alabama's Pre-k. Take note: Schools and families are desperately looking for an alternative type of affordable multi-sensory, hands-on, and interesting instruction. Currently, I am training and interested in writing on the following topics: A Comparison of Pre-K to Kindergarten; Adolescent Literacy (7th+); Assessment; Developing Readers; Children’s Literature; Classroom Management Techniques; Comprehension; Montessori Philosophy; Environmental Print & Early Writing; Family Attachment; Language and Literacy; Outdoor Classroom; Poetry Writing (7th+); Positive Guidance; Fine-motor Development; Cursive Writing; Creative Writing; Comprehension: Study Skills/Test Taking Strategies; Morphology; Phonics Instruction; Diversity Education; Neurodiversity Education; HandWriting; Reading Strategies; Best Practices P-12. Thank you, Tricia Cook, MEd., RSP, AOG; https://linktr.ee/tcooktutor

Leave a Reply

%d bloggers like this: