Trauma is an emotional response to a terrible event like an accident, rape, or natural disaster. Immediately after the event, shock and denial are typical. Longer term reactions include unpredictable emotions, flashbacks, strained relationships, and even physical symptoms like headaches or nausea.
From my childhood, I had heard so many negative comments that I felt like I couldn’t do anything right, I was stupid, and “nobody liked me”. As you can imagine, growing up with a learning disability, this became my inner thoughts and I believed them. Until mid-adult years, I discovered the veil of being imperfect was ego’s [prides] illusion and not what God had intended for His child, me. I thought Jesus was already in my heart; yet, looking back, I had simply not surrendered and let Him completely into my mind, which means gaining “God’s Spirit”. God, in His Will, uncovered the TRUTH. I had to look into my problems and emotions, then unto some issues and sin of my childhood and beyond. I had learned the importance of prayer, meditation, movement, daily revelation, intention, and affirmations with scripture reading; basically, I felt like a door had opened; but not entirely invited Him fully inside my heart and mind until the “dark night of the soul” situation happened in my life. Similarly, this brought myself in unity, into His light with Him. In the Light, we uncovered the darkness to become blameless, pure, and righteous with grace bringing. In turn, becoming closer to God helped me to discover replacing anger with strength and shame with empathy.
I am studying to learn how to best give Godly counsel by helping schools, students, families, teachers/tutors, anyone who feel weak and weary with a Neurodiversity by using literacy to become closer to God by having Him look upon their heart!!
Yes, I do believe the disconnect for families and schools. It’s in the Spiritual Development. The disconnect happens in these domains such as: (intellectual) what is right, (moral) what is good, and (imaginative) His Divine Will for us by in and upon design, plan, and purpose!!!
Oh yes- I believe people in anger nature tend to stay in fight, flight. Can be taught when it no longer works for them and/or needs to have an understanding of themselves and “the light”. Likewise, those with shame nature tend to stay in freeze and need help, guidance, and understanding of “life”; as well, those in flee which is both anger and shame need counsel for it’s the deepest and hardest to regulate and connect need both “light and life”.
Tricia Cook, Emotional Intensity Advocate & Reading Specialist